Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Well-Mannered Lady...

We had a great time at the Ladies in Waiting Tea Party!  The decorations were beautiful and Sis. Burton did an amazing job teaching about etiquette, manners, grace, etc.  We all learned a lot!!  Even Stephanie and I learned we weren't "sitting down" properly LOL 


For those of you who didn't get to make it that night, here are a few tips:
  1. Dress the part: You don't have to wear a suit or dress but a lady always wears clean, coordinated clothing - free of wrinkles. All clothes should fit properly - not too baggy, not too tight.  One is not usually considered classy if she exposes an intimate body parts. A lady will dress for her body type and not try to get ahead using her physical attributes.
  2. Cleanliness is key: Shower on a regular basis. Blow-dry and style hair before leaving your house. Apply a subtle amount of perfume. Your beauty should look effortless. Smile!
  3. Choose your words wisely: What you say and how you say it are two very important factors in exuding class. Always speak at a soft to moderate tone--you shouldn't need to raise your voice. If you're dealing with a person who won't listen unless you speak forcefully, then they aren't worth dealing with. If you have nothing good to say then don't say anything at all - take that to heart!
  4. Actions speak louder than words: Now that you look the part, you should act it too. For example, pull your skirt under your legs when sitting down. Always sit with legs crossed at the ankles or with your legs together, one foot slightly in front of the other.
  5. Sharpen your mind: Keep yourself informed of world events, politics, selected movies, plays, and music. Being cultured expands one's knowledge and interests, while opening doors to stimulating conversations with new people that can develop into meaningful business or romantic relationships.
  6. Practice martyr-free modesty: In everything she does, a lady will acknowledge those who helped her before she takes any credit for herself. A lady will not flaunt herself, her valuables, or her accomplishments. A good reputation can surpass all of those things. Do not correct others unless they ask your advice. Do not act like you are better than anyone else. A lady is not self-absorbed. But be careful not to seem overly modest--do not be weak and allow people to take advantage of you. You are too intelligent and classy for that.
  7. Never lose your cool: Don't let people get under your skin, no matter how much they try. Keep your composure. Express your surprise or disappointment at someone's behavior in a gentle way to show that their actions have affected you and to show that you have feelings, or else people might think you're cold.
We had a great time and laughed at all the mistakes we were making after Sis. Burton's lesson.  Hopefully, we can do another tea next year and all of you can attend :) 

XOXO,
Amberly

Friday, May 20, 2011

A Perfect Heart...

Have you ever asked yourself the questions "Who am I?" or "Why am I here?"

God has already answered those questions for us.  Revelations 4:11 says "Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honor and power: for thou has created all things and for thy pleasure they are and were created."   Isaiah 43:7 says "Even everyone that is called by my name:  for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him."  So...who are you and why are you here?  You are God's creation and you are here for His pleasure and His glory.  God did not create us so that He could have the front-row seat to our ongoing saga of follies and failures.  He created us because He delights in us!  We are the apple of His eye, created to be His treasure.  He taught us a very important lesson about treasures, when He said "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." Matthew 6:21. 

There's a funny thing about our hearts...we try to always act like they are perfect, but Jeremiah 17:9 says our hearts are deceitful above all else.  Hearts lie.  Eve let her heart convince her that she deserved more.  Lot's wife perished because her heart couldn't let go of the sin in Soddom & Gomorrah.  Hearts follow emotion and a lot of times they easily buy into satan's lies.  "Follow your heart" is the stuff of fairy tales and many nightmares.  I've endured and seen other's endure a lot of struggles because my heart wanted something I knew God didn't want for me.  We can occasionally change our circumstances, but only God can change our hearts.  There are several verses that teach us what to do when we know God needs to do a little "open heart" surgery on us:

In Matthew 22:37, Jesus told us to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."  When you determine to love Him with ALL of your heart, its not very hard to surrender control to Him. 

Psalm 62:8 says to "Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge."  When you are going through a trial, or even when you are overjoyed by some amazing blessing, pour your heart out to Him.  When you completely empty yourt heart in His presence, He can fill it up with His amazing spirit.

Psalm 62:10 says "Do not trust in extortion or put vain hope in stolen goods; though your riches increase, do not set your heart on them."  My hope is built on nothing less...than Jesus' blood and righteousness!  I dare not trust the sweetest frame, but wholly lean on Jesus name!  Where have you placed your hope?  Is it in the riches and stability that your career can bring or do you live by faith, knowing He will provide?

Psalm 86:11 says "Teach me your way, LORD, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name."  We desperately need an undivided heart...a heart that only desires His will and seeks not its own desires.  I think this is the hardest verse for me...yet we know "a house divided against itself will not stand." Matthew 12:25.

If you haven't already, give Him your whole heart!  Do not cheat yourself of the supernatural strength He is anxious to show on your behalf!

"The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. 

Seeking a perfect heart,
Amberly

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Never Forsaken

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the past few days.  Over the last five years, each year I've lost one person I was very close to...Its a lot to handle.  My mom has been struggling with illness for the last two years.  Then, we lost my uncle last week.  Yesterday afternoon, I got a phone call that my mom was being admitted to the hospital.  Its a bit overwhelming...and, it all had me feeling a little bit forsaken.  I have so many blessings, but nothing is more precious to me than my family and over the last few years, so many have been taken.

My sweet grandpa...


My precious Granny...


My awesome grandmother in Christ, Dorothy...


My awesome grandfather in Christ, Joe...


And most recently, my Uncle Joe Alston...



So...I was feeling a little down, until this morning when I read this verse:

It was a reminder to me that each of these people left priceless footprints on my life.  They helped to make me who I am and knowing I will see them again makes heaven seem so much sweeter.

Amberly

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Pride...

I've read this poem by Beth Moore several times and every single time I read it, it still strikes me the same way.  We are so tempted to become prideful, especially those of us who are in leadership.  We live in a glass house and everyone is always watching so, we try to "keep up appearances" and "always do the right thing." If we aren't careful, we can end up thinking we are better than others.  Pride is a hard thing to keep in check.  Every time I read this poem though, I'm reminded of how very important it is to strive to keep an humble spirit.  Pride will destroy us so quickly.  It really does come before a fall...

My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
I cheat you of your God-given destiny,
because you demand your own way.
I cheat you of contentment, 
because you “deserve better than this.”
I cheat you of knowledge,
because you already know it all.
I cheat you of healing,
because you are too full of you to forgive.
I cheat you of holiness,
because you refuse to admit when you are wrong.
I cheat you of vision,
because you’d rather look in the mirror than out a window.
I cheat you of genuine friendship, 
because nobody’s going to know the real you.
I cheat you of love, 
because real romance demands sacrifice.
I cheat you of greatness in heaven 
because you refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.
I cheat you of God’s glory, 
because I convince you to seek your own.
My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
You like me because you think I’m always looking out for you.
Untrue.
I’m looking to make a fool of you.
God has so much for you, I admit, but don’t worry…
If you stick with me you’ll never know.
 
XOXO,
Amberly

Thursday, May 5, 2011

If Only I Had Known....

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Only One Thing

Guest blog by Zoe Elmore (from Proverbs31.org)

“You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42 (NIV)

I had a college professor who told our health class to be sure we had eight hours of sleep, eight hours of work, and eight hours of leisure. It was her opinion that this formula would bring about a balanced life.
I can see you rolling your eyes and thinking, “Really?”

While I don’t agree with my professor’s formula I do agree that our lives must have balance and in order to achieve that balance we must return to putting our relationship with the Lord first.

Remember the story where Jesus told Martha, the sister of Mary and Lazarus that she needed to rethink her priorities? Martha was upset with Mary because she dropped what she was doing to sit at the feet of Jesus. Martha, however, continued with her hostess responsibilities until she had enough.
“But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’” (Luke 10:40, NIV).

But Jesus told Martha that it was Mary who had put her relationship with the Lord first in her life. “‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her’” (Luke 10:41-42,NIV).

Martha was one smart lady and she learned her lesson well. After this encounter, when Jesus arrived to call Lazarus from the grave, it was Mary who stayed in the house and Martha who went out to greet Him.

I love that it was Martha to whom Jesus said: “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?” (John 11:25-26, NIV).

Her reply confirms just how much Martha’s priorities had changed: “‘Yes, Lord,’ she told him, ‘I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who was to come into the world’” (John 11:27,NIV).
Setting priorities in today’s fast-paced life can be challenging for sure. We try to squeeze as much as we can into the twenty four hours in each day. Yet when we’ve had enough and can’t take any more, that’s when we find ourselves crying out to the Lord for help. If you’re anything like me you will hear His sweet words whispering to your heart, “Only one thing is needed.”

The simple truth is when we put God first in our lives; everything else will fall into place. Our responsibilities will continue and the demands of life will go on but God will be there to help us bring order out of chaos. “In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:6,NIV).

Dear Lord, I confess that my life is pulled in too many directions. When I am anxious about doing things I have trouble hearing Your Word. Help me to treasure the “one thing” that I need and trust You to put the rest in order. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Amberly

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Skin Care Mistakes

I saw this article on Yahoo and thought it contained some great tips for you young ladies about taking care of your skin.  Hope you learn something new :)

Despite our efforts to achieve glowing, flawless skin, many of us are making mistakes that stand in the way of the finest potions and lotions. Here, the biggest mistakes women are making with their skin, and the fixes to set things right. Gorgeousness, here we come!

Mistake: You're not wearing sunscreen every single day
We are all sick of hearing this advice, but dermatologists are probably just as tired of repeating it. This is the single biggest mistake most of us are making with our skin, and there's no need: it's an easy gaffe to fix.

The Fix
: You know it already: Wear an SPF lotion or cream with broad spectrum UVA and UVB protection every single day. But why every day? While UVB rays are strong in summer, UVA rays stay the same year-round. "If you go outside to shovel shovel snow on the most overcast day of the year, you're getting the same amount of UVA as if you were on the beach during the summer," says Dr. Jeannette Graf, a Board certified, clinical and research dermatologist. Slather up, whether or not the sun's out.

Mistake
: You think the SPF in your powder is good enough.
We love a time-saving double duty product as much as the next lady, but this kind of two-fer just doesn't cut it. Why? Because dotting foundation on to even out skin tone or sweeping a powder across the t-zone simply isn't a generous enough application to offer real sun protection.

The Fix
: "You really need to use an SPF cream or lotion," says Dr. Graf. In the winter, wear a moisturizer with SPF, but "during the summer you really need to bump it up and use a real sunblock that doesn't have any other ingredients but sunscreen and antioxidants," advises Dr. Graf. "You need that extra protection."

Mistake: You pick and squeeze.
We've all been there––it's just so hard not to!––but it's a habit that's not doing anything to help. "When you have a pimple under the skin, there is absolutely no way that you are going to be able to do anything about it in terms of squeezing," says Dr. Graf. "Nothing will come out and nothing good will come of it if you touch it." That is, unless you call scarring a good thing. (Nope!) Another mistake? Using a warm compress to draw out whatever is in there. That just expands the irritation even more, explains Dr. Graf.

The Fix:
  Apply an ice pack, suggests Dr. Graf. The cold will help constrict the blood vessel and could help make the blemish smaller.

Mistake: You over-dry your skin.

It's the battle of the blemish, and we're all just trying to use our strongest artillery. But this plan of attack actually backfires. Over-drying the skin creates irritation and redness, and what's worse, dry skin leads to clogged pores. Keep this up, warns Dr. Graf, and "you're actually going to get more breakouts and more clogging."

The Fix:
Take the path of moderation and lay off the full-on product offensive. You might need to try using your acne treatments every other evening or only a few times a week.

Mistake: You treat your entire face like it's a problem area.
It's like trying to use a chainsaw to shape your eyebrows. While you might have a few oily areas, like across your t-zone, you don't need to treat your entire face with products formulated for oily skin. When you treat combination skin like an oil slick it leads to irritation. And you know where irritation gets you––more clogging and more blemishes.

The Fix: As adolescence turns into adulthood, what was once oily skin is more often combination skin, explains Dr. Graf. Evaluate your skin type and treat it accordingly, whether you're dry, oily, or somewhere in between.

Mistake: You only protect your face from the sun.

Since we're trying to protect ourselves from the signs of aging, it makes sense that we'd focus on putting our best face forward. But as Dr. Graf  warns, "one of the biggest places I see aging is on the chest." Also scary: covering up with clothing isn't much help. "A white t-shirt gives you an SPF of about 5," explains Dr. Graf.

The Fix
: Any day you're going to be outside for a prolonged period of time, apply sunblock from head to toe, not just on your face and exposed arms and legs. Don't forget your ears!

Mistake: You're religious about using oil-free or non-comedogenic products.
Women with oily or blemish-prone skin have been taught that these words are the preventative gold standard for a break-out. In fact, many of us won't buy products that don't boast these terms on the bottle. But we might want to think again. "The terms non-comedogenic and oil-free are not FDA-approved terms. That's really just a selling point," explains Dr. Graf. The terms date back to the 1950s when beauty products used industrial-grade mineral oil that could break you out. "Today's mineral oil is a totally different cosmetic grade and is not going to break you out."

The Fix:
If you're someone with oily skin who lives in fear of a break-out, you should use a pH-balanced foaming cleanser on your face, and you might want to add in a silicone-based powder or gel, suggests Dr. Graf. But you don't need to rely solely on products billed as oil-free or non-comedogenic. Seek out products you like, regardless of meaningless marketing terms.

Mistake: You're over-exfoliating.
Quick science lesson: Over the course of 28 days, the bottom layer of your skin––the basal layer––migrates toward the surface of your skin. When it gets there, it dies. Enzymes in the dead skin cells then cause the dead layer to fall off. That natural process is called exfoliation. Got it?

"If you see a 3-year-old child, that process is working perfectly. As we get older, that's not working as well. Why? Because the enzymes in our skin require hydration and moisture in order to be activated. When we lose that natural moisture over the years, our enzymes don't work. We have that dead skin cell layer that hangs on, and we need to remove it. That's why we use exfoliators."

The Fix: Steer clear of harsh scrubs and exfoliators like BuffPuffs, which can break blood vessels, and apricot scrubs, whose needle-sharp pits will break your skin and cause redness. At home, "using a peel kit or microdermabrasion kit is great. Using it every single day is not," says Dr. Graf. Any deeper exfoliation should be done in the care of a skin care professional, she says.

Mistake: You're using the right products at the wrong time.
You've got an all-star line-up of retinols, sunblock, and microdermabrasion kits in your medicine cabinet. But when you use your products is as important as what you're using. "Everybody's using the kitchen sink in the morning," complains Dr. Graf. Retinols are light-sensitive, so using them during the day isn't such a bright idea.

The Fix:
"You want to use protective products in the daytime," says Dr. Graf, so slather on sunscreen twenty minutes before you leave the house. At bedtime, bring out the big guns, like exfoliators and retinols, "when your skin's natural circadian rhythms renew themselves," explains Dr. Graf.

Mistake: You use products with gold or metal in them.
It might seem super luxe to use creams flecked with gold, but you're better off keeping your money in your pocket. "They can cause contact dermatitis and there's no evidence that they do anything except drain your wallet."

The Fix
: When you feel like splurging on a rich potion, pick something that smells divine or has a luxurious texture––but is free from any precious metals.

Mistake: You go to sleep without washing your face.
We've all been there: You get home late and can't quite muster the energy to wash off the day or your makeup. (And waking up looking as "done" as Kim Kardashian can seem kind of screen goddessy.) "A lot of people will go to bed with makeup on. And a lot of people who don't go to bed with makeup on won't wash their face in the morning," says Dr. Graf. Both are big mistakes.

The Fix:  Wash your face morning and night.

Mistake: You don't give your skincare products a chance.
We live in a quick fix world, so when we don't immediately see results from a new skin care regimen, we can get frustrated and give up. We then bounce from product to product, trying to find the magic potion.

The Fix:
Exercise some patience. We take multivitamins, Dr Graf explains, knowing they're good for us, even when we don't see results. Sometimes you have to give your products the same measure of faith. "When you're using a skincare product, don't be so hard on the product. Understand that it's doing something for you." And that means waiting more than two days to see a difference––more like four to six weeks.

Amberly

Taken from Yahoo article: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/mistakes-youre-making-with-your-skin-that-you-might-not-know-about-2474092/