Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Thankfulness...

How many of you have heard the new Natalie Grant song they've been playing on KSBJ lately?  "Alive" is my new favorite!!  Here are the words:

Who but You, could breathe and leave a trail of galaxies and dream of me?
What kind of Love is writing my story till the end with Mercy’s pen?
Only You.

What kind of king would choose to wear a crown that bleeds and scars, to win my heart?
What kind of love tells me I’m the reason He can’t stay inside the grave?
You. Is it You? Standing here before my eyes, every part of my heart cries

Alive! Alive! Look what mercy’s overcome; death has lost and love has won
Alive! Alive! Hallelujah, Risen Lord, the only One I fall before
I am His, because He is alive.

Who could speak, and send the demons back from where they came with just one Name?
What other heart would let itself be broken every time, 'til He healed mine?
You. Only You could turn my darkness into dawn; running right into Your arms

Alive! Alive! Look what mercy’s overcome; death has lost and love has won
Alive! Alive! Hallelujah, Risen Lord, the only One I fall before
I am His, because He is alive.

Emmanuel, the promised King, the baby who made angels sing
Son of Man who walked with us, healing, breathing in our dust
The author of all history, the answer to all mysteries
The Lamb of God who rolled away the stone in front of every grave

Alive! Alive! Look what mercy’s overcome; death has lost and love has won
Alive! I am His, because He is alive.

November has always been known as the month of thankfulness.  I'm thankful for a lot of things: a wonderful family, a good husband, a home, a job, a car, sweet memories of my loved ones who have gone on, but above all else, I am so thankful that I know the King of Kings.  I'm thankful that the God we serve is very much alive and aware of our needs.  He sees us where we are. He is faithful when we are not.  His love and mercy know no end.

Psalm 89 (The Message) says...
Your love, God, is my song, and I'll sing it! I'm forever telling everyone how faithful you are.
I'll never quit telling the story of your love - how you built the cosmos and guaranteed everything in it.
Your love has always been our lives' foundation, your fidelity has been the roof over our world...
God! Let the cosmos praise your wonderful ways, the choir of holy angels sing anthems to your faithful ways!
Search high and low, scan skies and land, you'll find nothing and no one quite like God.
The holy angels are in awe before him; he looms immense and august over everyone around him...
Blessed are the people who know the passwords of praise, who shout on parade in the bright presence of God.
Delighted, they dance all day long; they know who You are, what You do—they can't keep it quiet!
Your vibrant beauty has gotten inside us - You've been so good to us! We're walking on air!
All we are and have we owe to God, Holy God of Israel, our King!

Thankful to know Him,
Amberly :)

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Easy? Said who?

The coming month of October is going to be a very big month in my house.  For one, we've worked for 3 years toward remodeling our home and have continually put off putting in new flooring.  Now, we've finally arrived.  As I type, they are at my house laying the new tile and in the next couple weeks will be coming in the lay the new carpet.  Its a very big deal for me.  Another very big deal is that my husband is meeting with the board regarding his ministerial licensing.  This.Is.Huge.  Several years ago my family and I were visiting my brother and sister-in-law in Alexandria, LA when a man that I did not know asked my dad if I was married to a preacher.  My dad replied "No, she isn't married at all."  The man responded, "Well, she will be."  I had just gone through a horrible divorce and had moved back in with my parents.  I took that word that day as a promise from God that he had not forgotten about me. 

All those years ago, I made a mistake in believing what God said, but not realizing the whole truth. Mark Twain said, “It’s not what you know that hurts you. It’s what you know that isn’t so.” When God called me to be a minister's wife, to write, etc., I wholeheartedly believed Him.  Yet, as most humans do, I lack patience, so I mistakenly thought that if I just followed Him the results would be instantaneous. However, several important components.  First, elapsed time.  Brutally honest - after almost 10 years of "elapsed time," I had almost given up believing this day would arrive. 


We can read through Deuteronomy and the exciting adventures of the Israelites and miss the parts that reveal how much time elapsed. Moses spent forty years in Midian working for his father-in-law. For forty years Moses led an often rebellious Israel in the wilderness. Joshua came under Moses’ tutelage at age forty-five, but didn’t take over leading the nation until forty years later. Caleb “followed the LORD [his] God fully” for forty-five years. At age eighty-five Caleb, with the help of the LORD, drove out the Anakim and took as his inheritance from Moses the fortified cities and territory of Hebron (Joshua 14:6-15). Our journey and mission with God is for a lifetime; not the overnight-instant-success-name-it-and-claim-it pseudo gospel our modern culture leads us to believe. 
The whole issue isn't completely just in the waiting either.  I didn't have the slightest idea what this one simple day would require of me.  I had no idea it would take years of labor.  If you notice, throughout their lifetimes Moses, Joshua, and Caleb weren’t sitting in rocking chairs on the front porch, sipping coffee and waiting for God to do something amazing on their behalf.  They were working hard and doing battle.  God repeatedly told the Israelites to possess the Promised Land. Possess does not mean to merely show up and move in. Possess means “to occupy by driving out previous tenants and possess their place. By implication—to seize, to expel, destroy, without fail.” God expected the Israelites to do battle for their land.  Only the Lord knows the battles we have fought due to misguided, well-meaning saints and others who allowed Satan to use them as spears to pierce our hearts. 

Why did I believe pursuing God’s mission for me would be easy? Why did I fall for the subtle, but disabling lie that if I was living God’s plan for me everything would come together easily and on my timetable? How did I miss Exodus 23:29-30, where concerning possessing the Promised Land God tells Moses, “But I will not drive them out in a single year, because the land would become desolate and the wild animals too numerous for you. Little by little I will drive them out before you, until you have increased enough to take possession of the land.” 
The new adventure October brings will definitely be scary, but I'm thankful that I've learned two valuable lessons becauase of it.  1) Living God’s mission requires hard work...and sometimes even going into battle. 2) Living God’s mission takes time and only God knows the timetable.  Only He can truly know when we have increased enough to take possession of our Promised Land.

XOXO
Amberly 

Friday, September 23, 2011

Fashion Friday - Color Blocking

If you've been to the mall or browsed thru any fashion magazine you've probably noticed a trend called

Colorblocking.

Graphic, bold, vibrant colors being worn in "sections" on your body in the form of wardrobe pieces make up this trend. By wearing one piece (say, your skirt) in one color (say, red) and then choosing a top that's purple. That's colorblocking.


It might be wearing a beige skirt with a black sweater and a red blazer. Get the picture?
It throws "column dressing" a little off kilter so remember that in case you're a little bit fluffy.

In the case of the not-so-perfect body (okay, so for most of us!) then try colorblocking in shoes,boots or a purse like these:


So there you have it! It's a terrific way to have that high fashion look, and wearing even just one of these items will make any outfit look Fall 2011 updated!

Happy Fashion Friday Ya'll!!
Amberly

*Taken from Shari Braendal's What to Wear Wednesday blog.

Monday, September 19, 2011

In Awe of YOU...

I read a quote this morning that really convicted me…

"In some ways, it’s those of us who are most familiar with the Spirit’s promises who are in the greatest danger. Someone has said that familiarity may not breed contempt, but it takes the edge off of awe. Something like this is true about the rich texts and glory-filled promises that drop the jaws or widen the eyes of newcomers but provoke no more than a raised eyebrow in the old-timers who have ceased to dream." – Jim McGuiggan

Are we so familiar with the presence of God that we are no longer awed by it? Are we so accustomed to the small, daily miracles that happen in our lives that we no longer thank God for them? I remember teaching a Bible study once to someone who knew nothing about the Bible or God. I will never forget her reading about the crossing of the Red Sea. She kept saying “Oh wow!! That’s so cool!” over and over again. I felt so convicted that I no longer responded that way. I had heard the story so many times and it had become just another Bible story to me, not really a “miracle” anymore in my eyes.

The same could be said for reaching new souls, for outreach, for discipleship. We get so familiar with the people around us that we no longer view them as lost. Once that happens, we lose our vision for church growth, we lose our passion for teaching Bible studies and training other people to win and teach new souls. Its then that church becomes just something good people do and we begin to lose our vision, we cease to dream.

Proverbs 29:18 says “Where there is no vision, the people perish…”

I looked up the word “vision” on dictionary.com. It says vision is “the act or power of anticipating that which will come or may come to be.” Spiritually, we die when we cease to dream about growth, when we stop seeing our altars filled with hungry souls, when we become so familiar with the people we work with and see on a daily basis that we no longer see them as hungry souls.

I believe many of us were filled with a new sense of vision yesterday and I pray that we can hold onto that. May we never perish spiritually because we lacked vision…may we always be asking God to see with His eyes.

XOXO,
Amberly

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Back to School Shocking...

I love fashion.  Basically everyone knows that.  Some of you will remember the blog posts I did based on Shari Braendel's book.  This is a blog post she did last week.  She basically read my mind.  Its amazing what stores sell for "teen girls" to wear.
 
Here's what she said:
It's Back to School Shopping (Shocking) time again. Last week, my assistant Jill Marquis, took her teenage daughter shopping and in the middle of her shopping trip I got a text from her that simply said, "Shoot Me." Part of the reason she wanted to be put out of her misery is that so much of what is available to our girls these days is simply ridiculous. When she spilled the drudgery of her shopping trip I asked her to write this blog post. Read on:

I took my fifteen-year-old daughter shopping last week, along with about a gazillion other people, in an attempt to pick up some staples for the coming school year. Now I won’t go into the trauma and drama that usually surrounds clothes shopping with a teenaged girl, that’s a whole other blog post, or maybe a book, but I will tell you about the latest fashions for teens that I saw. That’s what shocked me. And trust me, I’m not easily shocked. In the search for the ever-elusive perfect clothing, we were in a very popular (judging from the crowds) place called the Wet Seal. This store caters to young women, selling everything from jeans to intimates. A lot of the clothes were fine, that is until I turned around and saw the wall of graphic tees. Lots of shirts with cute sayings on them, right?

Not so much…here are some examples:

I’m Not Shy, I Just Don’t Like You

Don’t Hate Me Because I’m Pretty 
 
Everyone Here Is Awesome Except You

Shall I keep going?

Born This Way
Reckless

I’m Bad
 
If Your Single, So am I (They didn't even get the spelling right)
 
Wanna Make Out
 
Nobody Remembers The Nice Girl



 
This is what society is selling our young women. What starts out as a bit sarcastic quickly moves right past suggestive and into propositions. But most of us don’t look at it like that – it’s just funny, a little suggestive, a joke.
 But it’s not – the message is not subliminal, it’s a full on assault of our girls.

What do these pithy little sayings mean?

“I’m not responsible for my own actions, I’m Born This Way”.

“I don’t think things through, I’m, Reckless”.
 
“I’m Bad because I think it’s easier and more fun than making the right choice”.

“I’ll abandon my standards to be with you because If You’re Single So am I”.
 
“I have no self-worth, I’m desperate to be popular, desperate to be loved,
 so do you Wanna Make Out?”.

And, in my opinion, the worst one:

“I will do what I have to in order to be noticed, I will cheapen myself, I will give myself away, I will be mean and hateful because Nobody Remembers The Nice Girl.”

Maybe I’ve got the messages wrong, maybe I’m crazy. It’s not like that’s what the shirts really say…but that’s what I see. And I see the insidious attack on our daughters’ minds that puts their souls at risk. All that from a little tee shirt.

Mom’s, talk to your daughters, engage their friends. Ask their opinions, share yours. Starting the conversation will open their eyes – while they might think it’s about fashion, it’s really about faith. - Jill Marquis, Event Coordinator for Shari Braendel
 
Ladies, talk and talk and talk to your daughters about what they wear. But don't just give them RULES, give them REASONS. Just like Jill stated above, tell them what the sayings on the shirts mean. Ask them if it's wise to spend their (or your) money in a store that sells items like this. I simply wouldn't spend one cent in a store that has clothes like that.
Help your daughters understand that she is beautiful and amazing. I know, I know, I'm preaching to the choir, but let's all stand together and refuse to shop in places that have such degrading things for our girls to wear. One person DOES make a difference. And one plus one plus one adds up. Shari Braendal. 
 

I love you girls!
Amberly

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

He Makes Me Happy...

I saw this today on a blog that I enjoy reading.  Its "The Write Word" by Sis. Rachel Coltharp, a pastor's wife in Illinois.  I hope you enjoy it :)

"My husband doesn't make me happy.

I recently asked a young lady in the throes of new looooooove to describe to me what she loved about her Prince Charming. I was saddened that her only response was "He makes me happy". Sad because she thought "happy" was enough. Enough to gloss over some serious character issues. Enough to ignore warnings from friends and family. When weighing out all the issues, happy was winning over responsibility and integrity. She thought that lonely was the worst thing imaginable. She thought that happy was enough. But I know better.

Back when I was younger and foolisher, as opposed to now being older and sometimes still foolish, I was under the false impression that being part of a marriage meant never being lonely again. I thought that when you (finally) got married there were no more frustrations in your relationship with The Man. That the, ahem, closeness, would smooth out most of your emotional/relational rough spots. I thought that being married to Brent was going to fill all the empty places in my heart. That being loved by him was going to be enough.... to be happy. Boy was I wrong.

I was wrong because a husband was never intended to make me happy. Being married was not supposed to mean that I would never be lonely again. Never hurt again. Never be frustrated again. Marriage was intended so that I could serve Brent when HE is frustrated, lonely, hurt. So that I could share in HIS joys. So that I can be the hands and feet and voice of Jesus Christ to this man I have pledged my life to. And it's his job/obligation/duty/right to do the same for me. In serving each other, we serve Christ.

Let me tell you right now, there have been plenty of times when one of us was doing most of the serving. MUCHO opportunities arise in marriage where one partner can't, or won't, do their fair share. It is during those times that "for better, for worse, sickness or health, richer or poorer" comes in. Those are not just pretty poetic phrases. Honey pie, better may or may not come, but WORSE is around the corner. Health is not going to last forever, and sickness is not the least bit lovely. Poorer we recognize as being a potential difficulty, but richer can be too. Marriage is designed not to make me more happy, but to make me more holy.

Being married means that I have someone to share parts of my life with. Parts, yes, parts. Some things I can only truly share with God. The things for which there are no words. The times that my soul longs for more than any earthly person could ever fulfill. The hurts that no human touch, word or empathy can heal. He was never intended to. When I finally learned this, muuuuuch later than I wish I had, I freed Brent from unrealistic expectations. And in freeing him, I freed myself.

So while I share my happiest moments with Brent, while our relationship is the most satisfying and rewarding and enjoyable one I have, he does not MAKE me happy. Happy is a fleeting emotion. Quickly here. Quickly gone. No, Brent does not make me happy. But he shares my happy. And my pain. And he blesses me with the treasures of the ages, fidelity, patience, forgiveness, respect. Put "happy" on one side and those on the other.... there is just no comparison. And by the way.... I don't make him happy either."

Taken from http://rachelcoltharp.blogspot.com/
 
Love you ladies!!
Amberly

Friday, September 2, 2011

I Will Wait For You

Ok girlies, Natalie is coming out of blog-retirement! It's a miracle! Just found this today and wanted to share it with all of you. I hope you will continue to be strong and wait for the "perfect" man that God has for you.  Love you all! xo

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igCj3jsbcqs

Friday, July 22, 2011

Fashion Friday...

Don't have much for this Fashion Friday - its been one crazy week!!!  So, I thought I would just leave you with a quote from the beautiful Audrey Hepburn:

"For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of each of your arms.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years."

Happy Friday!
Amberly

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

HE Is...

I was cleaning out the picture folder on  my computer this morning...anticipating the move to the new office in The Woodlands.  I found a couple pictures from Worship on The River in Alexandra, LA.  I think it was a God-thing that I stumbled onto these pictures today.  The last few days it has seemed that my life is full of chaos.  In the middle of taking up tile in our house, an AC drainage pipe in our attic got clogged and flooded the upstairs bathroom...sending the ceiling caving in all the way down to the living room on the bottom story.  Its a mess.  While I'm thankful the new carpet wasn't in yet, my house was already a mess because all the furniture is moved and all my pretty things are boxed up.  Everywhere you look there is concrete with leftover grout stuck to it.  Its ugly.  Now when I sit on the sofa (which is sitting at a weird angle in the formal living room LOL) I can stare up into a nice big hole in the ceiling.  *huge sigh*  Plus, the move to the new firm is coming up...less money = more budgeting.  *another big sigh*  Its really hard for me to feel peace in the midst of chaos.  So, that's why I think seeing this picture today was a total God-thing.



Do you see that???  Right up at the corner in ALL CAPS, underlined letters???  GOD is...PEACE.

Are you getting my point now? I'm sure that many of you don't even remember the days of Aaron Jeoffrey, but I'm old and I do remember LOL Since seeing that old photo the words of a song they sang keep running through my mind:

In Genesis, He's the breath of life
In Exodus, the Passover Lamb
In Leviticus, He's our High Priest
Numbers, the Fire by night
Deuteronomy, He's Moses' voice
In Joshua, He is salvation's choice
Judges, Law Giver
In Ruth, the Kinsmen-Redeemer
First and second Samuel, our trusted prophet
In Kings and Chronicles, He's sovereign

Ezra, true and faithful Scribe
Nehemiah, He's the rebuilder of broken walls and lives
In Esther, He's Mordecai's courage
In Job, the timeless Redeemer
In Psalms, He is our morning song
In Proverbs, wisdom's cry
Ecclesiastes, the time and season
In the Song of Solomon, He is the lover's dream
He is, He is, HE IS!

In Isaiah, He's Prince of Peace
Jeremiah, the weeping prophet
In Lamentations, the cry for Israel
Ezekiel, He's the call from sin
In Daniel, the stranger in the fire
In Hosea, He is forever faithful
In Joel, He's the Spirits power
In Amos, the arms that carry us
In Obadiah, He's the Lord our Savior
In Jonah, He's the great missionary

In Micah, the promise of peace
In Nahum, He is our strength and our shield
In Habakkuk and Zephaniah, He's pleading for revival
In Haggai, He restores a lost heritage
In Zechariah, our fountain
In Malachi, He is the son of righteousness rising with healing in His wings

He is, He is, HE IS!

In Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, He is God, Man, Messiah
In the book of Acts, He is fire from heaven
In Romans, He's the grace of God
In Corinthians, the power of love
In Galatians, He is freedom from the curse of sin
Ephesians, our glorious treasure
Philippians, the servants heart
In Colossians, He's the Godhead
Thessalonians, our coming King
In Timothy, Titus, Philemon He's our mediator and our faithful Pastor

In Hebrews, the everlasting covenant
In James, the one who heals the sick.
In First and Second Peter, he is our Shepherd
In John and in Jude, He is the lover coming for His bride
In the Revelation, He is King of Kings and Lord of Lords

He is, He is, HE IS!

The Prince of peace
The Son of man
The Lamb of God
The Great I Am
He's the Alpha and Omega
Our God and our Savior
He is Jesus Christ the Lord
And when time is no more
He is, HE IS!

He is...so many things to so many people.  Here's one more photo...just more reminders of who God is. 


I'll leave you now that I'm feeling really small and realizing He is...more than enough - for you and for me.  He supplies all our needs...

XOXO
Amberly

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Limping the Walk...

I've been thinking lately about the people I did Bible Quizzing with.  Less than 20% of my team is still in church.  By that I mean, less than 20% even claim to believe in God.  They can quote literally hundreds of verses from the Bible, yet they don't believe its writer exists.  How did that happen? 
 
Most of us have brains filled with memorized scripture.  We started working on memorizing scriptures in Sunday School, when reciting the memory verse meant a bright shiny gold star on our charts, some of us attended Christian schools where the chapters memorized meant earning extra privileges, still further, some of us participated in Bible Quizz Tournaments.  In each situation, most of us memorized verses because a prize was being dangled in front of us.  So we did it. And we remember them still.  Hundreds of verses over the years. Most times when a familiar passage is being read I know it by heart. So many of us can talk the talk with the best of them. Walking the walk is another thing entirely.

I'm thankful all those years ago, I had a Sunday School teacher who taught me "Thy Word have I hid in my heart, that I might not sin against Thee."  I'm thankful that my parents prayed every day that most of all their children would have a deep love for the things of God, because they knew if we loved Him, we would follow His ways.

I revel in His love for me, so deep, so amazing. That He, who knows me best, loves me most. It boggles my mind, humbles my heart and sometimes, breaks my strong will.  He said “If you love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15) so I do my best to love Him the way HE wants to be loved. The words I choose, the clothes I choose, the way I spend my money (sometimes LOL), how I spend my time and talents...I choose to use them in the WAY His word instructs me.  But sometimes, my pride gets in the way, the ME monster arises and snarls and snaps at others, I let hormones, situations, fears and petty personal preferences sit on the throne of my heart.  But then, all those scriptures come to mind… the WORD comes, out of the recesses of my brain where it was stored and it speaks to my heart.
 
Remember, as you spend your Sunday morning drive to church working on your memory verse, or you study for Bible Quizzing...there really is a purpose beyond the shiny gold star or the trophy.  When you learn to love the Word you are memorizing, there is a benefit that will bless your entire life.  That Word will protect you in times of trouble, it will comfort you in times of sorrow, and it will keep you in times in doubt. 
 
Love,
Amberly

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Struggle With Perfection...

I find it is often a struggle to live a life of authenticity. If you know me much at all, you know I am a perfectionist.  So much so, that my husband told me a few days ago "You must be miserable trying to be so perfect all the time!"  I don't struggle with being myself necessarily, I struggle with wanting to hide my imperfections.  In the virtual world of Facebook and blogging there is a huge temptation to Photoshop my life into perfection. To erase the lines around my eyes, thin my silhouette, polish my demeanor and perfect my image. I can post only the best photos of myself and my husband, where my house is spotless and we are sitting in quiet contentment reading our Bibles and enjoy a cup of hot tea.  This is not AT ALL the actual reality of how we REALLY live most of the time. Sure, sometimes its reality...for brief seconds in time!

Honestly, my house is usually a bustling flutter of activity...I get up somewhere betwen 6:15 and 6:30.  Make a cup of coffee (a MUST) and fill it with honey and cream.  Then I rush to fix my lunch, shower, do my hair.  Then, I stand in my closet feverishly searching for something to wear that doesn't need to be ironed, because ugh...I seriously don't have time for that.  I rush off to the bus station for that 1 hour trip to downtown Houston (usually arriving 10-15 minutes later than planned).  I get on the bus, pull out my phone and proceed to check my emails, read my daily Bible reading.  Then, I arrive at work, and sit at my computer all day looking at the clock every few minutes, wishing for 5:00 to arrive.  Finally, I hit the bus stop for that long 1 hour trip home.  By now, its 6:15 p.m. and I'm driving home, talking on the phone with D, trying to decide what to have for dinner.  This, of course, is on nights when we have no other obligations.  At least several nights a week D and I rush home, he quickly changes clothes, and we rush out the door for one thing or another.   I don't enjoy shopping trips during the week, or leasurely afternoons in the park with my Bible and a cup of coffee.  Most nights, I fall into bed exhausted and have nightmares about the laundry that didn't get done or the dishwasher that needs to be unloaded.  In the perfect photo, my kitchen is spotless except for a bowl of fresh fruit and flowers. In the actual one, the dishwasher is full of dishes, the counters need to be wiped off and there is at least one pot in the sink that needs to be handwashed.  Not exactly what I want to post on Facebook…for what would folks think of me then?

I don't typically realize the pressure I place on myself, until my sweet husband decides he needs to point it out.  Gee thanks...  No, really - thanks.  I'm not exactly ready to show everyone how "unperfect" I really am...but maybe, just maybe, I can at least understand that I don't have to feel so guilty when my house isn't spotless because I spent my extra time working at the church or spending time with family.  Maybe, I can stop singing the nasty nagging ‘not perfect’ icky song. You know the one that says “Look how pretty, smart, talented, poised THEY are…how clean they keep THEIR homes, how well THEY stay on top of all the laundry... girl you just DON’T fit in”. That is the song I usually hear being played in my mind, but that is not the song Jesus wants us to sing.  Oh no - He keeps singing ‘We are family!’ He wants us to know its okay to have imperfections and its okay to let those imperfections show.  Afterall, we are all brothers and sisters in Christ and, just as I don't have to be perfect for my family...I don't have to perfect for His family either.  He shows love to us, no matter what.  And that only happens in the perfect world of perfect love. Perfect love casts out fear. That’s what He gives.  Not because we project back His perfection, but because He accepts us in our reality. He welcomes me, he calls me daughter.  Part of the family. I guess that is about as perfect as it gets.

Amberly :)

Monday, June 13, 2011

How Do You Know When It's God?

We write a lot on our blog about following God's plan for your life.  There have been many times I thought I was on a mission from God, I dived right in and then realized...ummm...It so wasn't from God LOL  There have been other times when God directed  me to do something and I was so terrified that I wasn't equipped for job that I questioned myself, asking "Is this really from God?"  When I read this article today, I thought it would be perfect to share with all of you.  Its titled "How Do You Know When It's God?" and written by Brenda Garrison: 

"When women talk with me about pursuing God’s plan for them, one of the most frequently asked questions is, "How do I know it’s God and not me?" Yes, we are thrilled to know that God has uniquely equipped and designed us for His work. Yet, we want to make sure we are hearing from God and not listening to our inner dreamer. The question also hints at a bit of fear. This calling will take all of our courage, so we don’t want to go where God isn’t directing. To help determine when God is directing you, consider the following:

Spend time with God.

You must know God before you can know what He is calling you to do. When you read the Bible, consider what you learn about His characteristics and how He relates to you. This helps you recognize God. Talking to God in alone time with Him and throughout the day opens the lines of communication between you and God. He speaks to and directs you in the way you can understand (John 10:27).

The calling may be outside your comfort zone and perceived capabilities.

In the Old Testament, Moses was described as a man who was content to be a shepherd, husband, and father. One day, God talked to Moses from the burning bush, and told Moses that He wanted him to rescue the Jews from slavery in Egypt. Moses replied with excuses based on fear and perceived inability. Likewise, God’s call may take you outside of your familiar environment. And, you may fear having what it takes.

Determine your motive.

A selfish motive can divert us off God’s path. Beware of desires to build your ministry, or be like someone else in ministry. Take some time with God to analyze what’s driving you. (Psalm 139:23, 24). Also, motives can be tainted by others who think they know God’s plan for us. Make sure God is talking to you, not your pride or a "helpful" friend.

God will make the way.

As you wait to discern God, rest assured that He will lovingly show you the next step or course of action. For example, just before Jesus ascended, He told the apostles to stay in Jerusalem and "wait for the gift my Father has promised." Then, He told them they would receive the Holy Spirit and be His witnesses to all the ends of the earth. Likewise, God will clarify how you are to proceed. Trust Him and wait on His direction.

What is the desire in your heart?

Psalm 34:7 says, "Delight yourself in the LORD, and He will give you the desires of your heart." When we delight ourselves in God, His plans for us will feel natural and exciting, because His purpose will fulfill our lives. In regard to living God’s calling, one woman once told me, "That’s why following God is so fun!"

Finally, relax and trust God to guide and correct you. He wants what is best for you. So, if you head down the wrong path, He will redirect you. He wants you to know His voice, follow His love, and live out your calling with confidence. "

XOXO,
Amberly

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Dry Ground...

I recently purchased a Women's Devotional Bible (its the NIV version and published by Zondervan), and I am absolutely loving it!!!  Today I read a devotion by Amy Carmichael (she's one of my fav authors) and I decided to share it with you.  This devotion goes perfectly with everything we've been hearing about moving forward...I hope it helps you the way it did me!!

"Read: Joshua 3:1-17.

I believe that, in guiding us, God deals with us as He dealt with the Israelites as He led them out of Egypt.

The first crossing of the sea was made very easy.  The guidance could not have been simpler:  The east wind blew and divided the sea before the people had to cross.  Not so much as a foot was wet, except perhaps by a wind-driven spray.  Moreover, it was impossible, as it were, to disobey, since they were pursued by Pharaoh's chariots and horsemen (Exodus 14).

But how different it was on the second occasion.  The priests had to walk into the strong current of a flooded river and stand still there.  What an order to scott at, and what a sight it would pose to other men! But it was not until they obeyed - without a particle of visible proof that they were doing right - and carried the ark right into the river, that the water rolled back before them (Joshua 3).

So it may be for us, as we go on with God.  You and I may be called again and again to walk right into our own "rivers," whatever they may be - to wet our feet in them.  We may be called to do what nobody understands except those to whom the word of guidance is given - and with it, His promise too.

But understand this:  The word must come first, and also His promise.  You and I must be sure of what we are called to do, with an inward conviction that absolutely nothing can shake.  In my own case, again and again, I have had to wet my feet in the water...Only God and those who have to walk in that path know how hard this kind of faith-life can be.  But He does know.

If only the next step is clear, then the one thing to do is take it!  Don't pledge your Lord or yourself to any steps beyond what you know.  You don't see them yet.  Once when I was climbing at night, in a forest before there was made a path, I learned what was meant by the words of Psalm 119:105 "Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path."  I had only a lantern, and had to hold it very low or I would certainly have slipped on those rough rocks.

We don't walk spiritually by electric light, but by a hand-held lantern.  And a lantern shows only the next step - not several steps ahead."

Moving forward,
Amberly

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Intercession

            Since our service last night, I’ve been thinking about intercessory prayer.  We are so near God’s return and now more than ever, we need to be interceding for the lost.  I don’t want anyone going to hell, and more than anything, I want people to experience life the way I have!  Jesus has been life to me. Redemption from wreckage. I know He has been the same to many of you.  In many of those extended periods of time when I’ve poured out my heart to Him in true intercession, I was going through extreme crisis and marrow-deep healing. I was interceding for myself…I’ve only had a couple experiences with interceding for someone else.  In my normal practice (when I’m not in crisis mode), I confess my sins and ask God to search my heart, then I pray for the needs on my list.  We are the children of God and our hearts need tending and mending that only He can bring. But in these end times, its so important that we find that place of intercession.  Its not an easy place, especially for people who like to pray for a certain amount of time and then go about their day.  Its hard for people like me who have jobs.  Its hard to find a balance between cultivating your own relationship with God and interceding for others.  Its a balance we have to find though, a struggle we have to endure.  Anybody else feeling this urgency to intercede? 

            I read this story earlier this week in the book Intercessory Prayer by Dutch Sheets:

I knew the person I was going to pray for was very ill.  What I didn’t know was that she was comatose with a tracheotomy in her throat, a feeding tube in her stomach and had been in that condition for a year and a half.  Seeing her for the first time was like expecting a prescription and receiving brain surgery.  Her sister, who had asked me to visit this young lady, had not given me the whole story for fear I wouldn’t go at all.  She knew if she could just get me there once, I’d probably go back.  She was right!  The doctors gave Diane no hope for living, let alone coming out of the coma.  Even  if she did regain consciousness, she would basically be a vegetable because of her extensive brain damage, or so the doctors believed.

Have you ever stood beside someone in this kind of condition and asked God for a miracle?  To stand beside death and ask for life can be intimidating.  It can also teach us a lot – about life, about death, about ourselves and about our God. 

It happened on a Saturday morning when she was all alone.  Earlier that week Diane had been moved from the nursing home to a hospital for treatment of an infection.  After administering more tests, the doctors determined her condition had grown worse and informed her family that she would die soon.  When Diane’s sister relayed this information to me, I dashed off to the hospital.  Knowing comatose people can often hear and understand everything happening around them, I spoke much to her.  We later learned, because of the damage to her brain, Diane was not hearing me.  But on that afternoon, I spoke to her as usual.  “This nightmare is almost over,” I said with tears streaming down by face.  “Nothing can keep us from receiving our miracle.  Nothing!”  It was not just a strong hope I had at this point, but a great faith.  I had turned to God so many times throughout the course of that year asking Him if He Had really sent me to this little girl.  Each time I received His assurance, “I sent you.  Don’t quit.”

God restored Diane!  He healed her brain, the outer layer of which the doctors said had been totally destroyed by a virus.  Every part of it was covered with infection.  “No hope,” they said.  The front page of the newspaper read, “Woman Awake, Alive, Healthy After Two Years in Coma.”  The doctors called it a “medical miracle.”  “We have no explanation,” they said.

            We know the explanation.  We know a God who saves, who heals, who delivers, who spares, who restores!  1 Timothy 2:1 says “I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people…”  We know people who, like the girl in the story, are dying from physical problems, but we are also surrounded by people who are dying from spiritual disease.  Bro. Cook preached last night to tell the pallbearers “Stop!  I’m still alive!” 

            Psalm 106:23 talks about Moses interceding for the Israelites.  The Bible says the people would have been destroyed “had not Moses, his chosen one, stood in the breach…”  We need to stand in the gap, to intercede for the lost, to stand up for them and declare that there is still life in those dry bones. 

            Let’s stand in the breach for the people of Willis, TX.  Let’s pray for divine deliverance, for miracles of healing, and for LIFE! 

Amberly

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Well-Mannered Lady...

We had a great time at the Ladies in Waiting Tea Party!  The decorations were beautiful and Sis. Burton did an amazing job teaching about etiquette, manners, grace, etc.  We all learned a lot!!  Even Stephanie and I learned we weren't "sitting down" properly LOL 


For those of you who didn't get to make it that night, here are a few tips:
  1. Dress the part: You don't have to wear a suit or dress but a lady always wears clean, coordinated clothing - free of wrinkles. All clothes should fit properly - not too baggy, not too tight.  One is not usually considered classy if she exposes an intimate body parts. A lady will dress for her body type and not try to get ahead using her physical attributes.
  2. Cleanliness is key: Shower on a regular basis. Blow-dry and style hair before leaving your house. Apply a subtle amount of perfume. Your beauty should look effortless. Smile!
  3. Choose your words wisely: What you say and how you say it are two very important factors in exuding class. Always speak at a soft to moderate tone--you shouldn't need to raise your voice. If you're dealing with a person who won't listen unless you speak forcefully, then they aren't worth dealing with. If you have nothing good to say then don't say anything at all - take that to heart!
  4. Actions speak louder than words: Now that you look the part, you should act it too. For example, pull your skirt under your legs when sitting down. Always sit with legs crossed at the ankles or with your legs together, one foot slightly in front of the other.
  5. Sharpen your mind: Keep yourself informed of world events, politics, selected movies, plays, and music. Being cultured expands one's knowledge and interests, while opening doors to stimulating conversations with new people that can develop into meaningful business or romantic relationships.
  6. Practice martyr-free modesty: In everything she does, a lady will acknowledge those who helped her before she takes any credit for herself. A lady will not flaunt herself, her valuables, or her accomplishments. A good reputation can surpass all of those things. Do not correct others unless they ask your advice. Do not act like you are better than anyone else. A lady is not self-absorbed. But be careful not to seem overly modest--do not be weak and allow people to take advantage of you. You are too intelligent and classy for that.
  7. Never lose your cool: Don't let people get under your skin, no matter how much they try. Keep your composure. Express your surprise or disappointment at someone's behavior in a gentle way to show that their actions have affected you and to show that you have feelings, or else people might think you're cold.
We had a great time and laughed at all the mistakes we were making after Sis. Burton's lesson.  Hopefully, we can do another tea next year and all of you can attend :) 

XOXO,
Amberly

Friday, May 20, 2011

A Perfect Heart...

Have you ever asked yourself the questions "Who am I?" or "Why am I here?"

God has already answered those questions for us.  Revelations 4:11 says "Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honor and power: for thou has created all things and for thy pleasure they are and were created."   Isaiah 43:7 says "Even everyone that is called by my name:  for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him."  So...who are you and why are you here?  You are God's creation and you are here for His pleasure and His glory.  God did not create us so that He could have the front-row seat to our ongoing saga of follies and failures.  He created us because He delights in us!  We are the apple of His eye, created to be His treasure.  He taught us a very important lesson about treasures, when He said "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." Matthew 6:21. 

There's a funny thing about our hearts...we try to always act like they are perfect, but Jeremiah 17:9 says our hearts are deceitful above all else.  Hearts lie.  Eve let her heart convince her that she deserved more.  Lot's wife perished because her heart couldn't let go of the sin in Soddom & Gomorrah.  Hearts follow emotion and a lot of times they easily buy into satan's lies.  "Follow your heart" is the stuff of fairy tales and many nightmares.  I've endured and seen other's endure a lot of struggles because my heart wanted something I knew God didn't want for me.  We can occasionally change our circumstances, but only God can change our hearts.  There are several verses that teach us what to do when we know God needs to do a little "open heart" surgery on us:

In Matthew 22:37, Jesus told us to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."  When you determine to love Him with ALL of your heart, its not very hard to surrender control to Him. 

Psalm 62:8 says to "Trust in him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge."  When you are going through a trial, or even when you are overjoyed by some amazing blessing, pour your heart out to Him.  When you completely empty yourt heart in His presence, He can fill it up with His amazing spirit.

Psalm 62:10 says "Do not trust in extortion or put vain hope in stolen goods; though your riches increase, do not set your heart on them."  My hope is built on nothing less...than Jesus' blood and righteousness!  I dare not trust the sweetest frame, but wholly lean on Jesus name!  Where have you placed your hope?  Is it in the riches and stability that your career can bring or do you live by faith, knowing He will provide?

Psalm 86:11 says "Teach me your way, LORD, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name."  We desperately need an undivided heart...a heart that only desires His will and seeks not its own desires.  I think this is the hardest verse for me...yet we know "a house divided against itself will not stand." Matthew 12:25.

If you haven't already, give Him your whole heart!  Do not cheat yourself of the supernatural strength He is anxious to show on your behalf!

"The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show himself strong in the behalf of them whose heart is perfect toward him." 2 Chronicles 16:9. 

Seeking a perfect heart,
Amberly

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Never Forsaken

I've been doing a lot of thinking over the past few days.  Over the last five years, each year I've lost one person I was very close to...Its a lot to handle.  My mom has been struggling with illness for the last two years.  Then, we lost my uncle last week.  Yesterday afternoon, I got a phone call that my mom was being admitted to the hospital.  Its a bit overwhelming...and, it all had me feeling a little bit forsaken.  I have so many blessings, but nothing is more precious to me than my family and over the last few years, so many have been taken.

My sweet grandpa...


My precious Granny...


My awesome grandmother in Christ, Dorothy...


My awesome grandfather in Christ, Joe...


And most recently, my Uncle Joe Alston...



So...I was feeling a little down, until this morning when I read this verse:

It was a reminder to me that each of these people left priceless footprints on my life.  They helped to make me who I am and knowing I will see them again makes heaven seem so much sweeter.

Amberly

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Pride...

I've read this poem by Beth Moore several times and every single time I read it, it still strikes me the same way.  We are so tempted to become prideful, especially those of us who are in leadership.  We live in a glass house and everyone is always watching so, we try to "keep up appearances" and "always do the right thing." If we aren't careful, we can end up thinking we are better than others.  Pride is a hard thing to keep in check.  Every time I read this poem though, I'm reminded of how very important it is to strive to keep an humble spirit.  Pride will destroy us so quickly.  It really does come before a fall...

My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
I cheat you of your God-given destiny,
because you demand your own way.
I cheat you of contentment, 
because you “deserve better than this.”
I cheat you of knowledge,
because you already know it all.
I cheat you of healing,
because you are too full of you to forgive.
I cheat you of holiness,
because you refuse to admit when you are wrong.
I cheat you of vision,
because you’d rather look in the mirror than out a window.
I cheat you of genuine friendship, 
because nobody’s going to know the real you.
I cheat you of love, 
because real romance demands sacrifice.
I cheat you of greatness in heaven 
because you refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.
I cheat you of God’s glory, 
because I convince you to seek your own.
My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
You like me because you think I’m always looking out for you.
Untrue.
I’m looking to make a fool of you.
God has so much for you, I admit, but don’t worry…
If you stick with me you’ll never know.
 
XOXO,
Amberly

Thursday, May 5, 2011

If Only I Had Known....

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Only One Thing

Guest blog by Zoe Elmore (from Proverbs31.org)

“You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42 (NIV)

I had a college professor who told our health class to be sure we had eight hours of sleep, eight hours of work, and eight hours of leisure. It was her opinion that this formula would bring about a balanced life.
I can see you rolling your eyes and thinking, “Really?”

While I don’t agree with my professor’s formula I do agree that our lives must have balance and in order to achieve that balance we must return to putting our relationship with the Lord first.

Remember the story where Jesus told Martha, the sister of Mary and Lazarus that she needed to rethink her priorities? Martha was upset with Mary because she dropped what she was doing to sit at the feet of Jesus. Martha, however, continued with her hostess responsibilities until she had enough.
“But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, ‘Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!’” (Luke 10:40, NIV).

But Jesus told Martha that it was Mary who had put her relationship with the Lord first in her life. “‘Martha, Martha,’ the Lord answered, ‘You are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her’” (Luke 10:41-42,NIV).

Martha was one smart lady and she learned her lesson well. After this encounter, when Jesus arrived to call Lazarus from the grave, it was Mary who stayed in the house and Martha who went out to greet Him.

I love that it was Martha to whom Jesus said: “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?” (John 11:25-26, NIV).

Her reply confirms just how much Martha’s priorities had changed: “‘Yes, Lord,’ she told him, ‘I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who was to come into the world’” (John 11:27,NIV).
Setting priorities in today’s fast-paced life can be challenging for sure. We try to squeeze as much as we can into the twenty four hours in each day. Yet when we’ve had enough and can’t take any more, that’s when we find ourselves crying out to the Lord for help. If you’re anything like me you will hear His sweet words whispering to your heart, “Only one thing is needed.”

The simple truth is when we put God first in our lives; everything else will fall into place. Our responsibilities will continue and the demands of life will go on but God will be there to help us bring order out of chaos. “In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:6,NIV).

Dear Lord, I confess that my life is pulled in too many directions. When I am anxious about doing things I have trouble hearing Your Word. Help me to treasure the “one thing” that I need and trust You to put the rest in order. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Amberly

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Skin Care Mistakes

I saw this article on Yahoo and thought it contained some great tips for you young ladies about taking care of your skin.  Hope you learn something new :)

Despite our efforts to achieve glowing, flawless skin, many of us are making mistakes that stand in the way of the finest potions and lotions. Here, the biggest mistakes women are making with their skin, and the fixes to set things right. Gorgeousness, here we come!

Mistake: You're not wearing sunscreen every single day
We are all sick of hearing this advice, but dermatologists are probably just as tired of repeating it. This is the single biggest mistake most of us are making with our skin, and there's no need: it's an easy gaffe to fix.

The Fix
: You know it already: Wear an SPF lotion or cream with broad spectrum UVA and UVB protection every single day. But why every day? While UVB rays are strong in summer, UVA rays stay the same year-round. "If you go outside to shovel shovel snow on the most overcast day of the year, you're getting the same amount of UVA as if you were on the beach during the summer," says Dr. Jeannette Graf, a Board certified, clinical and research dermatologist. Slather up, whether or not the sun's out.

Mistake
: You think the SPF in your powder is good enough.
We love a time-saving double duty product as much as the next lady, but this kind of two-fer just doesn't cut it. Why? Because dotting foundation on to even out skin tone or sweeping a powder across the t-zone simply isn't a generous enough application to offer real sun protection.

The Fix
: "You really need to use an SPF cream or lotion," says Dr. Graf. In the winter, wear a moisturizer with SPF, but "during the summer you really need to bump it up and use a real sunblock that doesn't have any other ingredients but sunscreen and antioxidants," advises Dr. Graf. "You need that extra protection."

Mistake: You pick and squeeze.
We've all been there––it's just so hard not to!––but it's a habit that's not doing anything to help. "When you have a pimple under the skin, there is absolutely no way that you are going to be able to do anything about it in terms of squeezing," says Dr. Graf. "Nothing will come out and nothing good will come of it if you touch it." That is, unless you call scarring a good thing. (Nope!) Another mistake? Using a warm compress to draw out whatever is in there. That just expands the irritation even more, explains Dr. Graf.

The Fix:
  Apply an ice pack, suggests Dr. Graf. The cold will help constrict the blood vessel and could help make the blemish smaller.

Mistake: You over-dry your skin.

It's the battle of the blemish, and we're all just trying to use our strongest artillery. But this plan of attack actually backfires. Over-drying the skin creates irritation and redness, and what's worse, dry skin leads to clogged pores. Keep this up, warns Dr. Graf, and "you're actually going to get more breakouts and more clogging."

The Fix:
Take the path of moderation and lay off the full-on product offensive. You might need to try using your acne treatments every other evening or only a few times a week.

Mistake: You treat your entire face like it's a problem area.
It's like trying to use a chainsaw to shape your eyebrows. While you might have a few oily areas, like across your t-zone, you don't need to treat your entire face with products formulated for oily skin. When you treat combination skin like an oil slick it leads to irritation. And you know where irritation gets you––more clogging and more blemishes.

The Fix: As adolescence turns into adulthood, what was once oily skin is more often combination skin, explains Dr. Graf. Evaluate your skin type and treat it accordingly, whether you're dry, oily, or somewhere in between.

Mistake: You only protect your face from the sun.

Since we're trying to protect ourselves from the signs of aging, it makes sense that we'd focus on putting our best face forward. But as Dr. Graf  warns, "one of the biggest places I see aging is on the chest." Also scary: covering up with clothing isn't much help. "A white t-shirt gives you an SPF of about 5," explains Dr. Graf.

The Fix
: Any day you're going to be outside for a prolonged period of time, apply sunblock from head to toe, not just on your face and exposed arms and legs. Don't forget your ears!

Mistake: You're religious about using oil-free or non-comedogenic products.
Women with oily or blemish-prone skin have been taught that these words are the preventative gold standard for a break-out. In fact, many of us won't buy products that don't boast these terms on the bottle. But we might want to think again. "The terms non-comedogenic and oil-free are not FDA-approved terms. That's really just a selling point," explains Dr. Graf. The terms date back to the 1950s when beauty products used industrial-grade mineral oil that could break you out. "Today's mineral oil is a totally different cosmetic grade and is not going to break you out."

The Fix:
If you're someone with oily skin who lives in fear of a break-out, you should use a pH-balanced foaming cleanser on your face, and you might want to add in a silicone-based powder or gel, suggests Dr. Graf. But you don't need to rely solely on products billed as oil-free or non-comedogenic. Seek out products you like, regardless of meaningless marketing terms.

Mistake: You're over-exfoliating.
Quick science lesson: Over the course of 28 days, the bottom layer of your skin––the basal layer––migrates toward the surface of your skin. When it gets there, it dies. Enzymes in the dead skin cells then cause the dead layer to fall off. That natural process is called exfoliation. Got it?

"If you see a 3-year-old child, that process is working perfectly. As we get older, that's not working as well. Why? Because the enzymes in our skin require hydration and moisture in order to be activated. When we lose that natural moisture over the years, our enzymes don't work. We have that dead skin cell layer that hangs on, and we need to remove it. That's why we use exfoliators."

The Fix: Steer clear of harsh scrubs and exfoliators like BuffPuffs, which can break blood vessels, and apricot scrubs, whose needle-sharp pits will break your skin and cause redness. At home, "using a peel kit or microdermabrasion kit is great. Using it every single day is not," says Dr. Graf. Any deeper exfoliation should be done in the care of a skin care professional, she says.

Mistake: You're using the right products at the wrong time.
You've got an all-star line-up of retinols, sunblock, and microdermabrasion kits in your medicine cabinet. But when you use your products is as important as what you're using. "Everybody's using the kitchen sink in the morning," complains Dr. Graf. Retinols are light-sensitive, so using them during the day isn't such a bright idea.

The Fix:
"You want to use protective products in the daytime," says Dr. Graf, so slather on sunscreen twenty minutes before you leave the house. At bedtime, bring out the big guns, like exfoliators and retinols, "when your skin's natural circadian rhythms renew themselves," explains Dr. Graf.

Mistake: You use products with gold or metal in them.
It might seem super luxe to use creams flecked with gold, but you're better off keeping your money in your pocket. "They can cause contact dermatitis and there's no evidence that they do anything except drain your wallet."

The Fix
: When you feel like splurging on a rich potion, pick something that smells divine or has a luxurious texture––but is free from any precious metals.

Mistake: You go to sleep without washing your face.
We've all been there: You get home late and can't quite muster the energy to wash off the day or your makeup. (And waking up looking as "done" as Kim Kardashian can seem kind of screen goddessy.) "A lot of people will go to bed with makeup on. And a lot of people who don't go to bed with makeup on won't wash their face in the morning," says Dr. Graf. Both are big mistakes.

The Fix:  Wash your face morning and night.

Mistake: You don't give your skincare products a chance.
We live in a quick fix world, so when we don't immediately see results from a new skin care regimen, we can get frustrated and give up. We then bounce from product to product, trying to find the magic potion.

The Fix:
Exercise some patience. We take multivitamins, Dr Graf explains, knowing they're good for us, even when we don't see results. Sometimes you have to give your products the same measure of faith. "When you're using a skincare product, don't be so hard on the product. Understand that it's doing something for you." And that means waiting more than two days to see a difference––more like four to six weeks.

Amberly

Taken from Yahoo article: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/mistakes-youre-making-with-your-skin-that-you-might-not-know-about-2474092/